Reason # 7

Reason #7 why your life is better than mine. Dating Sucks

I realize that it has been a long time since my last post, but I guess I chalk that up to being in a fairly good place in life right now. Kind of hard to blog about how other peoples lives are better than mine if things are going well.  Alas, I have found a portion of my life that is definitely not where is should be.

My romantic/dating life SUCKS. There is no other way to say it. I m twice divorced, once by my choice and once against my wishes. At this point and time my dating life doesn't appear to be any more positive than my marriages were.

While I hope that as you read this you can't relate to what I'm posting but can at least share in my misery. In no particular order here are some of the low lights from some of my recent dates:

1. My first date with a woman that I had been instant messaging with was over lunch on a Wednesday afternoon. I had notice that while messaging her responses were very short. Usually one word answers, but even when more than a few words, there was no real substance to any of her responses. I chalked it up to the awkwardness of IMing. Wrong. During the entire meal she maybe said ten words total. I would talk and she would nod her head and give me a yes or no response. To make matters worse, when we got to the restaurant, 10 of her co-workers were at the same restaurant celebrating a birthday. So in addition to talking to myself for 30 minutes, I had a table full of strangers staring at me the entire time we were there. What a freakin disaster

2. Another first date was in Lawrence. We met at the brewery for dinner. In this instance, we had actually talked over the phone. While this woman could hold a decent conversation, she had one of those annoying throat-clearing laughs during every pause in the conversation. Again, I chalked it up to the awkwardness of talking on the phone to a stranger. Figured it would be better in person. Wrong. After a painful dinner that was obviously going nowhere, I thought I would be a decent person and offer to buy her a coffee and walk around Mass St for a bit hoping to salvage the evening. She was game. We found a coffee shop, waited in line, not talking to each other. I paid for our coffees, she took the cup from me looked me dead in the eyes and said, "Well, I'm outta here." End of date.

3. My most recent disappointment didn't even make it to the first date. I have been emailing a very nice woman that recently moved from Hays to Tulsa. Everything seemed to be going well. She agreed to talk over the phone and gave me her number. Trying to do this right, I sent her an email yesterday morning telling her I would call around 7:30.  I called and was sent straight to vmail. Three times. Great. About an hour later I got a text from her chastising me for not following through and calling her when I said I would. Basically, she told never mind. It wasn't until the next morning that I realized I had entered her phone number wrong. I was calling someone in a completely different area code. Sometimes I can be so stupid.

So, if you are happily in a relationship, or just happy with you single life, I can say with all sincerity that Your Life is Definitely Better than mine.

On a positive side note. I have actually talked with the person in scenario #3 twice now and we seem to be getting along very well. I am excited to see what the next few months have in store for this.